10 Warning Signs Not to Trust Someone
The foundation of every relationship is trust. How you
communicate with others, how you feel about them, and how willing you are to
talk about important things with them all depend on how trusting you are. It
even affects your willingness to devote time and effort to the relationship.
Sadly, not everyone can be relied upon.
If you don't want to get hurt, you need to be able to spot
some people before it's too late because they are just bad news.
And while some indicators, such as lying or breaking
promises, are more obvious; Other things aren't always as simple.
The following are a few indicators that a person
may not be worthy of your trust, whether you are evaluating them as strangers,
coworkers, friends, or potential romantic partners.
1. They Are Excessively Charming If a
person seems perfect or too good to be true, they probably aren't being
themselves.
This is due to the fact that manipulators frequently employ
charm as a method of obtaining their desired results.
In addition, it can be challenging to determine whether a
person is sincere or simply intends to exploit you for their own gain.
It is likely that someone is attempting to conceal something
or appear more likable than they actually are when they exert an excessive
amount of effort to capture your attention and leave a favorable impression on
you.
Therefore, if you sense that they are not sincere, you should
follow your instincts and keep them at a distance.
2. They Are Always the Victim or the
Hero in Their Own Stories If a person is always the victim or the hero in their
own stories, it is likely that they are acting in a way that is not in line
with who they really are.
These people either attempt to make you feel sorry for them
or to present a positive image.
They are prone to deceit and have an exaggerated sense of
their own importance.
Usually, a person is attempting to persuade themselves that
they are correct when they consistently portray only themselves as positive and
everyone else as negative.
I'm not saying it's wrong to be a hero or a victim in some
situations.
It's just that if someone always says one of those things in
conversations, it should be a red flag.
3. They Misrepresent Insults as Jokes A
joke and an insult are two different things.
When someone insults you, they are not making fun of you;
They are acting rudely.
This usually indicates that they don't respect you, don't
care about your feelings, or think they are better than you.
It's one thing to use sarcasm, but it's a bad sign if you get
insulted on a regular basis and it's not even acknowledged as such.
Even if someone is jokingly making fun of you, they probably
don't care about your well-being.
By making you feel bad, they are just trying to make themselves
feel better.
Consider whether this person is attempting to uplift you or
intentionally making you feel bad. In that case, it might be best to let them
go.
They don't appear to be worth the effort anyway.
4. They're Quick to Criticize But Slow
to Applaud It goes without saying that we all judge people to some degree.
It is human nature to look for patterns and then classify
things.
However, those who are quick to criticize but slow to praise
tend to have a pessimistic outlook on life and frequently view others as
rivals.
As a result of their lack of empathy and compassion, they
will not be good listeners or comprehend other people's points of view.
Because it is hard for the other person to see your successes
and failures as part of a shared experience, this mindset can be toxic in any
relationship.
Instead of focusing on your strengths, they always look for
your flaws.
5. They exaggerate and provide
half-truths You are familiar with the pattern.
You are having a conversation with someone when they say
something to you that makes you think, "Wait, what?"
It's hard to tell if it's something they've said or done that
doesn't make sense or if their tone of voice is off.
Most of the time, this is because the person is lying and
probably exaggerating.
Statements that are technically true but fail to include
crucial details are known as half-truths.
Similar is exaggeration.
It contains real elements, but they are exaggerated to an
extreme.
Some people are dishonest in a more subtle way than others,
while others lie openly.
In either case, it's time to start questioning what they're
saying and doing if you start to notice something off about their stories or
behavior.
6. They Can't Understand That Other
People Have Opinions If someone tries to convince you that their opinion is the
only one that matters, or if they try to tell you what to think, this is a big
red flag.
Having strong opinions is not a bad thing.
However, you should be able to freely express your thoughts
and ideas without worrying about being criticized or judged for them.
You probably shouldn't trust someone if they consistently
undermine you or shut you down.
This kind of person disregards everything else because they
believe their opinions to be true.
Most of the time, they are manipulative and in charge, and
they want everyone to think like them and agree with them.
7. They don't respect your boundaries.
Respect and understanding are the foundations of trust.
Therefore, it's not a good sign if someone doesn't respect
your boundaries and wants to go beyond them.
Only you should be able to define what is acceptable in terms
of your personal space, possessions, and relationships with other people.
If someone makes you feel bad about saying no or pushes you
to do things you don't like, it means they don't care as much about you. This
is not good for everyone involved.
8. They make excuses for their actions.
Reliable people take responsibility for their mistakes and shortcomings.
Additionally, they accept criticism without becoming
defensive or enraged.
It is because they are unable to recognize any fault in their
own behavior that they consistently make excuses for their actions or shift the
blame to others.
This kind of person only cares about themselves and doesn't
really care what you think or feel.
9. They Are Excessively Protective of
Their Privacy or Past People are protective of their privacy or past for a
variety of reasons.
For instance, a person might be going through a significant
life change and not want to tell anyone about it yet.
Or, perhaps they have endured extremely difficult
circumstances and do not wish to relive them.
Additionally, there are some matters that are best kept
private.
But if a person is very careful about what they say about
themselves, you should probably be careful of something.
I mean, how can you trust them if they won't tell you
anything about themselves?
10. Their social circle changes a lot
It's normal to have friends change over time, but if a person has a new best
friend every month, it could mean they aren't as trustworthy as you think.
They are definitely not very trustworthy or loyal.
Furthermore, they may be prone to drama.
If a person moves around their circle of friends all the
time, it may be because they can't commit to any of them, which probably means
they can't commit to you as well.
It is essential to have the ability to trust others, but it
is also essential to avoid blind faith.
In the end, you are the only person who can judge a person's character, so these signs should definitely make you worry and make you wonder about their intentions.
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